Tuesday, July 15, 2008

hey nineteen

Nineteen years is nothing to sneeze at. Nineteen years, four children, one farm, one hand built house, untold agricultural endeavors and unschooled adventures later and here we are. It is not by accident that we are here.

You see, falling in love is the easy part. You can do that with train wrecks. I certainly have. That was perhaps the one thing about my husband that told me he needed to be my husband -- he was different from all the rest of the people I’d ever loved. Although I couldn’t exactly define how he was different, but I knew it in that way you know things deep down.

And so he and I became us. Then there were more of us. And we knew from way back then the sorts of things that were important to us -- that we wanted land (although we seriously contemplated staying put in the city), we didn’t want debt , we wanted kids, we wanted independence, that we were about “natural” and “holistic” and stuff like that. And I wanted animals in general and horses specifically.

There has always been a direction we’ve been moving in. Sometimes we’ve moved more slowly and sometimes more quickly, but we’ve moved. When other people thought that perhaps we should be working on the house, or making more money, or otherwise being more socially acceptable, we just kept moving in our direction. Luck is when something bad happens and you face it down and simply don’t allow it turn out badly. When you refuse to be tossed by the storms of life.

There is in life a force of sheer will that does indeed move mountains.

7 comments:

thingfish23 said...

Happy Anniversary (?), and God bless you all.

barefoot gardener said...

Congrats on 19 years...

jenny said...

May you both have many more years together!

Sounds like marching to the beat of your own drum has served you all well. More power to you!

Anonymous said...

Congratulations! Love to you both. Miss you both very much!! ~Ish

CG said...

ISH!!! Come back to blogging! Or at least back to the mountains!

Everybody else, thanks!

laura said...

i like thinking about that early knowing of what was important. i'd have to say that is the guiding force behind our marriage as well. even through all our misteps, family has been the priority. and staying together when it was hard as hell. i look back on our 14 years and all the people that thought we could never last (we were too different from each other!! ha) and i am amazed at how much we've come through and how much we've grown.

congrats on the anniversary and i wish i could've been a fly on the wall at wal-mart that night!!!! going to wal-mart a little snooky and with no list...omg!!!

CG said...

I was grinnin'!

I'd about have to say that staying together is a matter of hard-headed-ness. Orneryness.

I'm amazed at how much we've done. We said we were going to do these things, and we have and are. I'm amazed at the sorts of things that I take for granted, like the fact that if I really want to do something, I've got my family's support to do it. I am amazed at these people that my children are, and how much I enjoy them. And how much I still totally enjoy husband's company and talking everything in the whole world over with him.